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A Tale of Memories

Written by: Dipanwita Ghosh

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I remember my fellow schoolmates finding history, language and literature very difficult and boring as those papers demanded “lengthy” answers. But, I wasn’t a part of that pack. I loved to write pages after pages; sometimes even while solving mathematic problems just to remember the steps, till I attended a certain age. So, here I am penning down my thoughts and sharing those with you.

We, Bengalis have a ritual called ‘Annaprashon’ (Rice Feeding Ceremony), where a new born is fed rice for the first time. An interesting component of the ritual is when the priest offers things like book, pen, money (and a few other things which I can’t recall) to the baby and it is believed that the kid would excel in the area related to the thing the baby picks up. I have been told that I picked up the Pen. As a result, my parents were elated thinking that I would excel in studies. However, the story turned out to be remarkably different.

 

Studies were a big no-no for me since nursery. I loved dancing. I can vividly remember my first stage performance at the age of five. I was being extremely angry when my costume was not fitting me well. Little did I know that the dresser would use the same dress for a five-year-old and a 15-year-old. Tears rolled down my bubbly cheeks, till my teacher came and dressed me up with her childhood dress. Oh, how I miss those pampering!

We were seven people in the family, and we stayed in a small two-and-a-half room of a rented house at that time. My mother had a deep regret that we did not have a roof of our own. My brother and I, however, never felt the absence of our own house. We had a very caring neighbour and we used to spend hours at their place. The neighbour had two daughters, who also happened to be my mother’s students. I do not know what they dreaded more: Mom giving them mathematic lessons or me styling their hair with a display of novice skills. Now, when I see small kids do such things to me, I realise how much the sisters loved me. Yes, I miss their love!

I was treated like I was the gem of my family. I was very dear to my uncles and my grand-mother. Although, I didn’t get to spend much time with her, but, I made sure to extract as much love as possible from my uncles. Neither of them ever shied away from fulfilling my wishes. As someone who loves to gorge on chaats to this day, my childhood was a plate full of fuchkas, aloo-kabli and churmur. It was a routine for my uncles to sneak in chaats for me, without my Mom noticing it. I used to have biriyani as often as a ‘normal’ person would have daal-bhaat. I distinctly remember the day when I first learnt to write Bengali alphabets on computer: it was like magic for a nursery kid. Yes, I miss that magic!

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Meanwhile, my relationship with my father was a bit different. One of the funniest incidents with my Dad was right towards the end of my winter vacations. The night before the school was supposed to re-open, I asked my Dad to get me New Year greeting cards for my friends. He promised to get them the next day. But, I was extremely angry with him. “How could he say that he would get me cards the ‘next day’ when I wanted them right away?” Disappointed, I took out my language notebook and turned to the page where I had penned the essay about ‘My Father’. I quickly changed some words around and soon the “best father” had become the “worst father”. I never knew, until I had grown up, that it had hurt him so much that he got me the cards the same night. And, yes of course, I had immediately updated the essay again and my father was back with his winners title of the “best father”. Frankly, I was very scared of him, mostly because I knew I could never meet his expectations. I remember the day when while dropping me to school, he said that he dreamt of me going to the US some day. Poor me, he never knew how upsetting it was for me to think that his dream would never come true. But as they say, sometimes, the wishes of your parents can turn into blessings for you. Now at the age of 26, I can proudly call myself a ‘US-return’. Credit goes to you, Dad. Thank you for holding onto me with conviction and putting me on the right track. Yes, I miss his decisions now!

Mom, if there is anyone in this world whom I can dedicate my success and achievements, it is only you. You consoled me whenever I broke down. And, you continue to do the same even today. I hated the thought that maths was most important to you, even more important than me (as I thought at that time). But, today I realize that it is always good to have something inanimate in your life, may be ahead of a human, because it might turn out to be the only shelter where you can turn to in times of distress. Words wouldn’t suffice if I keep writing about you, so let me just say; I may not be a good daughter but, you will always remain the best Mom in this world. And yes, I miss you, Maa!

Here I am, letting the wonderful people in my life know how much they mean to me and how their love and affection have shaped me to what I am today. In this fast paced life, we often forget to stop and thank the next person, who helped us to grow. So, people take a moment out of your busy schedule and thank those important people in your life. There are many wonderful people in your life; thank them for the love, the care and most importantly, for the time they have shared with you. As you know that you can pay back everything, but not time!

Friendship Day Messages: Celebrating Friendship Day

Friendship Day, a day to celebrate all the special bonds in our lives. Friendship is not restricted only among Friends. Any relationship should have friendship in order to take it forward. Yes, many of you might ask that isn’t love important for a relationship? Yes it is, but it is said that Friendship is there for the place where Love brings tears. This Friendship Day we have got a huge number of messages from all our readers who wanted to share their feeling of friendship and love for their friends and beloved ones through us. So here we go:

1) Anish Das wants to wish his friends Ayan, Bittu, Sounak and Rahul a very Happy Friendship Day. Here is the message:

Guys you all are very special to me. Today we are completing 8 long years of our Friendship and I am sure that we all can make it to 50 long years. Cheers to our Friendship. Love you guys. Happy Friendship Day!

2) This message is for Kaushik from Ananya:

50 years from now, I’d be so old I might forget you. I might not remember ever knowing you, or might forget I once cared for you. I might.. but I won’t. You mean a lot to me. Thank you for such a good friend. Happy Friendship Day.

3) Rahul wants to say something to Ria. Here is his message:

I won’t promise to be your friend forever, because I won’t live that long. But let me be your friend as long as I live. Thanks for everything. Happy Friendship Day. A big hug!

4) Aritri wants to wish her friends Keya, Anil, Rupsha, Shaonli and Riju a very Happy Frienship Day. Here is her message for you guys:

In a very short time we have become very good friends. I shared great moments with you. Hope to cherish this friendship forever. Wish you a very Happy Friendship Day.

5) Ananya wishing Gourav a very Happy Friendship Day:

I find it difficult to find apt words to describe you, you know how much you mean to me. Thank you for being with me throughout my life. Wishing you Happy Friendship Day.

6) Kaushiki wants to wish Sourav a very Happy Friendship Day:

Many people will walk in and out of your life, but only true friends will leave footprints in your heart. And that’s exactly what you have done. Happy Friendship Day.

7) Trisha sent us this message for her best friend Pragya:

God made us best friends because he knew our parents couldn’t handle us as sisters.

8) Soniya’s message for Luv, her best friend:

I may not make you smile always but I will be best person I could be for you always. Wishing you the best greetings of friendship day.

9) Paromita has got a lovely message for Oishi. Here it goes:

In this WORLD, where everything seems UNCERTAIN,  only one thing is DEFINITE. You’ll always be my FRIEND, beyond WORDS, beyond TIME and beyond DISTANCE!  HAPPY FRIENDSHIP DAY!!! Loads of LOVE.

10) Rohit wants to wish his brother, Rony a very Happy Friendship Day because he thinks that Rony is his best friend.

 I believe in angels, the kind that heaven sends. God has sent an angel as my brother and that’s you. I can share all my thoughts with you, cry with you, laugh with you and fight with you. What else do I need? Thank you Rony. Love You!

11) Ahana’s message for Dimpy, Rohita, Apeksha and Aswathy:

Friendship is a little more trust, A little less try, A little more laugh, And a little less cry, A little more WE and a little less I. Happy Friendship Day!

12) Deeksha wishing Friendship Day to Raktim:

We gain and lose things every day. But trust me on one thing: YOU WILL NEVER LOSE ME! I will always be there as a friend. Happy Friendship Day.

13) Roshni has sent this quote for her closest friend Akash. Have a look:

Being your friend is my basic necessity, Missing you is my habit, Fighting with you is my speciality, But forgetting you is like taking my life out of me! Don’t go away from me Motu! Happy Friendship Day with loads of love.

14) Anwesha’s message for her best friends Riya, Krish, Yug, Ruchi and Sneha.

Friendship is about bringing out the positive when everything seems negative…Being accepted for who you are…Being able to pick up right where you left off…Sharing, talking, and laughing…Friendship. So, Happy Friendship Day guys.

15) This quote and message is for Aishika from Kaustav.

‘Friendship is a strong and habitual inclination in two persons to promote the good and happiness of one another.’ Bujhli kichu? Char. Happy Friendship Day pagli. Love you!

16) Mohini wishes Happy Friendship Day to Shalmali, Vishal, Kaustav, Abhijit, Vivek, Rani, Priya, Aatish, Pranali and Arush.

Milna bichadna sab kismat ka khel hai, Kabhi nafrat to kabhi dilo ka mail hai, Beek jata hai har rishta duniya me, Sirf dosti hi yaha ‘NOT FOR SALE’ hai. Happy Friendship Day guys.

17) Priyanka and Souravi wishes their best friend Madhuchanda a very Happy Friendship Day. Here is the message:

Friend is one, who (F)inds you in a (R)ush of people, (I)nspires you to do something in life, catch your (E)motions and (N)ever leaves you till (D)eath. Cheer up Madhu. Happy Friendship Day!

18) Karan has sent this message for his best friends Mohit and Siddharth.

Despite the advice about choosing your friends wisely, you really cannot choose your friends. They choose you.Our paths may change as life goes along, but the bond between friends remains ever strong. Happy Friendship Day.

19) Sania has sent this special request for her friend Sneha. 

Don’t ever think that you can live without friend. Friend is the best thing in the world. So, let’s sort out everything and make this friendship even more stronger. Happy Friendship Day.

20) Chaity wants to wish her friend Nikhil a very Happy Friendship Day.

A very happy friendship day to us. Hope we survive through all our fights and cries. Love you loads.

21) Bikash has sent this message for Ankita.

Friends let you know that you are not alone on the road of life. And you have made me realise that I am not alone. A very Happy Friendship Day. Thank you for everything.

22) Nikita has sent this beautiful message for her best friend and love, Nilesh: 

Thank you so much for your time, patience and love. You are my closest friend on this planet. I love you and I miss you, always. Happy Friendship Day.

23) Arup has sent this quote for Anik.

“Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: “What! You too? I thought I was the only one.” Happy Friendship Day.

24) Mayukh has sent this interesting question for his best friend Raja.

Golden rules to feel happy meet a friend, call a friend, talk to your friend, hug a friend, and love a friend. So what’s your plan today? Let’s meet? Happy Friendship Day.

25) Ritwika wishes a very Happy Friendship Day to Anurag.

Only a true best friend can protect you from your immortal enemies. And I am lucky to have you in my life. Happy Friendship Day.

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Boundaries

– By Soumi Dutta

Each relationship has to have some framework – each with its own set of vows and commitments, but there must be some bindings which will not be shackles, but bonds. There has to be responsibility and the sense of belonging – to be able to find out where a person will call their home. 2 minute recipes or pretty attractions lie around, ready to mess up, but if the bonds are respected, the commitments are followed without any question of doubts, if the sense of belonging is so strong that no one else is compatible with them however attractive they are, then there is no need to compromise. A relationship is about adjustment, not compromise. If the relationship is strong, it is because of both the lovers. One hand alone cannot clap. When there is only one hand, it aches as though there was no hand at all from the beginning. Love feels like a sin, the burden of which has to be carried lifelong. A relationship is like a knot, if more than one knot is tied, only the previous knot loosens. Love is freedom, but freedom is not free. A price has to be paid for love to grow – the price of unflinching devotion to the feeling, the passion and heat to see through the end and above all, the ability to give away anything and everything just to see her smile once.