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I am curvy and I know it: The diary of a fat girl

Written by: Angana Sen Gupta

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“Bhaiya next parathe main thora ghee zyada dalna. Aaj kal aap bade kanjusi kar rahe ho.”

Yes, that’s me fighting for that extra spoon of ghee like every other day and also witnessing those curious stares all filled with one simple question: Are you kidding me woman?

The reason being very simple. I am a 24-year-old, over weight girl, who is least concerned about her scales, rather is more concerned about her taste buds and do not like to deprive them from the simple joy of life which is food.

Since childhood, I have been this fat little chubby girl who would roam around talking to every other person she met.  As time passed, thanks to my father’s genes, not only was I broad and fat, to add on to it I became really tall. Hence, now is a ‘gigantic’ figure.

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I have never been very concerned about my figure but thanks to our society, more than me they show all kinds of concern. My parents were always asked: “Is she suffering from thyroid?” “Have you tried consulting a dietician for her?” “Does she only eat and do no physical exercise?” “Why don’t you try making her a bit concerned about her figure?” “She is a girl, who will marry her if she remains fat like this?” etc. and the list never ended. Obviously, my parents did get affected and they tried everything possible to make me thin. But unfortunately, all their efforts went into the drains.

Not only this. Every fat person has experienced certain things in life, from shopping to travelling. For example, when you go out shopping, your size availability becomes a headache because you don’t have the perfect hourglass figure according to the societal norms. Travelling in a public transport? From the time you take the bus till the time you get down, those eyes constantly look at you and think is she sitting on two seats and paying for one. In fact, if your luck is really bad then an auto driver may even reject you or ask you to sit exactly in the middle so that the auto does not topple down.

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And yes thanks to our media, who have successfully materialized woman to such an extent that, if you are fat you automatically become untouchable or someone with whom you cannot be noticed. A girl should be typically thin. If you are fat, you are either sympathized or looked down upon no matter how hardworking or talented you might be.

The worst scenarios happen when a fat woman wants to get married and that too in a typical arrange marriage structure. As it is, according to Indian culture a girl’s family is never to demand anything on top of that if the girl is fat, it’s like the end of the world for her parents. I have a simple question to all the would-be- groom’s mothers. Is your son even a good human being owing to the recent scenarios of rapes and bride killing for dowry, that you come to a girls house, sit, eat and then humiliate her and her family only because she is fat?

According to recent studies, over 55% of obese people have higher chances of falling prey to acute depression. In our culture, thin is equal to beautiful and being overweight can lower self-esteem, a known trigger for depression. This results in anxiety, low performance, and a greater number of reported suicide attempts.

Thus, the girl you just called fat might be starving to death just to fit into the group. The woman you just rejected from the job might have a family that she needs to support. The girl who was not given the opportunity to give the presentation only because she was not presentable enough has spent nights sleepless just to make the perfect slide.

Obesity can be from various reasons and it is something which is curable. It’s nothing to be ashamed about. Judging someone by their size only reflects your mindset. No one is perfect. Just try accepting people as they are and this you never know might save some one’s life as well.

 

Women’s Day Special: An Interview with Sreemoyee Piu Kundu

International Women’s Day is all about celebrating the social, economic, cultural, and political achievements of women. Thus, we celebrated this Women’s Day with Sreemoyee Piu Kundu, a writer and a former journalist who shared her thoughts and ideas with us.
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1. Tell us about being an author – what made you write? Did you always want to 
become an author since childhood?
Sreemoyee: I have always loved writing and was a journalist for over a decade, but being a full time writer was a decision that I took spontaneously after a holiday in Australia, after which I came and quit my job in PR. I never knew then that this would be my path.
2. What’s the earliest memory you have of writing a story?
Sreemoyee: I was in school where my essay won the first prize, I wrote a lot of poetry as well since I was an only child and mostly voiced my aloneness.
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3. Please tell our audience about your first book Faraway Music. How did you decide on the topic?
Sreemoyee: My first book, Faraway Music was mostly autobiographical and told the story of a writer coming back to her roots.
4. Your second book was titled Sita’s Curse. It is a rare topic. What was the thought process behind the book? 
Sreemoyee: Sita’s Curse was a feminist erotica. And told the story of a 39 year old housewife’s sexual destiny, as she’s set free by her own physicality.
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5. What kind of research you had to do for the book?
Sreemoyee: Interviewed a lot of women from conservative households who were largely used to existing as dull, asexual creatures, victims of marital rape and also sexual exploitation by Godmen.
6. Your third book is out for the readers. What do you want to say about this latest book of yours?
Sreemoyee: My third book is titled “You’ve got the wrong girl”. It’s a lad lit, a fun and racy male romance that is a contemporary retelling of Shakuntalam.
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7. If you had to do it all over again, would you change anything in your latest book?
Sreemoyee: No 🙂
8. How should a first time author leverage his book to a publisher? And how did you go about doing the same? 
Sreemoyee: These days there are literary agents who are the middlemen. I sent my proposal to publishers and was lucky with Hachette.
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9. If you had to choose, which writer would you consider a mentor? Which one is your favourite book?
Sreemoyee: I consider Sylvia Plath as my mentor. I have too many, really, it’s hard to pick any one.
10. Would you say that anyone who has a flair for writing can write a book? Is there a large enough audience for Indian writing in English now with so many young Indian authors publishing short stories and novels?
Sreemoyee: I think writing has suddenly become inspirational but the quality has gone down, also there is a clutter and publishers hardly promote books, so a lot of good writing is lost.
11. What’s your take on women authors in the country? How can Indian women empower themselves in a better manner?
Sreemoyee: We should tell the stories we believe in, unfettered.

 

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12. What next? Tell us about your upcoming books.
Sreemoyee: I am currently working on my nonfiction on single women, Status Single.
13. Any quote from the book that is your favourite?
Sreemoyee: ‘Everyone deserves a love story!’ You’ve Got The Wrong Girl!
14. Any message, tips for aspiring authors?
Sreemoyee: Own your voice 🙂